My daughter dating loser
I think I understood her crazier moments better than anyone else.
A few years into the divorce, I was heading towards teenagerhood, with emotions and insecurities turned up to eleven.
When I looked at my mom, I saw my future self; and what I saw, to my surprise, was a woman who was in demand, because my mom dated. All the books say this is bad news for the kids, but trust me: I wasn’t thinking that any of those guys was going to be my new dad.
I already had an excellent dad, and wasn’t in the market for another.
Because a decent number of those guys have some nutty ideas about what it means to be in charge.
But here’s a hard reality: if you raise that daughter, she’ll likely intimidate her fair share of “nice Christian boys” as well.
This guy sells drugs and is accumulating a police report at the rate on one a month, usually for battery. Amazeingly there are more cases like yours then you think, makes you wonder WHAT it is that makes these 'losers' so ''attractive''.
Is your child’s choice so disappointing or contrary to how you brought them up that you can’t find a way to make peace with it? Your hope is that your disapproval will bring your child to his senses.
You’re not even supposed to think about it until things get serious. The gap left in the silence of his love life was bewildering; we knew there was a piece of the story that we weren’t being told.
My mom, on the other hand, was dating up a storm, and while this probably wasn’t a whole lot of fun for my siblings, it was precisely what I needed to see. I struggle with my weight the way she did; but more than that, I have the same constant swirl of powerful emotions, thoughts, and feelings rushing through my head at a frenetic and relentless pace.
But seeing all those men wanting to date my mom was amazing.
Men, lots of men, wanted to go out with this woman who had four kids, a sharp wit, and a growing career. I’d absorbed through pop culture that women were supposed to be single, thin, and pretty — not funny or smart or ambitious.