Dating someone whos parent has cancer
Of course, this makes it hard for him to commit to another woman -- namely, you.Q: What's the difference between a man having a "healthy" attachment to his mother and an "unhealthy" one? Mandel: While you might find it odd that he's calling or even visiting his mother daily, the frequency of contact a guy has with his mom doesn't determine how healthy or unhealthy his attachment is to her. If both mom and son have mutual respect for one another and have set good boundaries with each other (if he's able to say "Thanks but no thanks for the new underwear you bought me, Ma.
An opinion given without invitation is often wasted.So, it becomes a mutually parasitic relationship; both mom and son are afraid to be independent of each other.In essence, your guy has become his mom's pseudo-husband, and consciously or unconsciously, he likes the importance of this role.Q: When evaluating the health of a guy's relationship with his mom, what do you recommend a woman look for? Mandel: A guy with a healthy relationship with his mother can say "no" to her, make choices and decisions on his own, have an intimate relationship with a woman without fearing his mom will be jealous or intrude in his relationship, and likes it when mom is busy and enjoying her own life with or without a spouse.If he still takes his laundry over to mom to have her do it, or has her cook weekly meals for him (and he doesn't have the flu), run!