Rules for dating a muslim girl
I’ve just finished reading Mohja Kahf’s book “The Girl in the Tangerine Scarf.” It’s about Khadra Shamy, the daughter of Syrian immigrants to Indianapolis, whose parents become heavily involved with the Da’wah Centre.The chapters recounting her childhood and adolescence, growing up in a very tight-knit Muslim community, made me smile, laugh, and even sniffle a bit – also being the daughter of “Da’wah workers,” I could relate to it quite a bit! Funny and interesting anecdotes; truly accurate glimpses into the heart of the Muslim community; and since no life is complete without sorrow, even the grisly death of one of the community’s most promising young women.Things began to look up, though, when Khadra marries Juma al-Tashkenti – a good guy all around. Everyone must have kept secrets from each other about what they really liked, who they really were.was my reaction, and I thought maybe this would be a husband-and-wife battling the odds sort of thing that would fill up the rest of the book – after all, I was halfway done and there hadn’t been a main plot to the story yet. How much had any of them really known each other growing up? In the first snippet of dialogue, Khadra (and presumably Mohja Kahf, if the character’s beliefs reflect the author’s) does not believe in one of the main principles of the ‘Aqeeda of Ahlus-Sunnah wal-Jamaa’ah – that Islam is the only true and correct path to worshipping Allah and attaining success in the Hereafter."My advice is this: wait as long as you can," Allen says.Her rationale for these dating rules may seem obvious, but many people tend to forget in the heat of the moment.Police in Virginia believe they have found the remains of a teenager who went missing while walking to a mosque with her friends.Fairfax County police began their search for a 17-year-old girl, who was identified by friends as Nabra, around 4am Sunday.
To tell the truth, it’s actually not that bad – the first half, anyway. Okay, you’re probably wondering what I’m talking about (if you haven’t noticed the title of the post…).
"It depends on how rapidly or slowly things progress." Joan Allen, a relationship expert, finds that baby boomers are far more likely to wait to have sex than younger daters.
"Especially among older people who went through the sexual revolution, with maturity they realize there are emotional consequences for getting involved in a sexual relationship," says Allen, author of Celebrating Single and Getting Love Right: From Stalemate to Soulmate.
While you can't apply a one-size-fits-all response to sexual dating rules regardless of age or experience, professionals who have studied the topic say it is a good idea to develop a set of prudent dating rules - before the big date.
By and large, Allen and other relationship experts endorse a cautious approach to the dating rules of sex.